Lilith is only mentioned once in Scripture—in Isaiah 34:14. Together with watcher-jackals and goat-demons, she haunts the ruins of Edom. Her name is often translated as owl, since it derives from night. However, that’s not entirely satisfactory since Isaiah clearly uses ‘lilith’ with supernatural overtones, given the demonic company she’s keeping. Quite possibly Delilah, the Philistine wife of Samson, was named after her.  And personally I think there are several episodes in the Bible where she is the unnamed spirit operating behind the scenes.

As if to make up for the dearth of information in Scripture, tradition and folklore overflow with tales of her malevolence.

Lilith is basically a vampire spirit—her interest is not, primarily, in eliminating us. Though of course she is the ultimate opportunist, so if it suits her purposes, that can be the outcome. However, she’d rather feed off us. She prefers resurrection life to the ordinary kind—she laps it up. She drains us, saps us dry, depletes us, exhausts us, bleeds us dry. She’s the spiritual power behind narcissists. She enhances the blockages to the processing of shame, causing them to drain others physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually.

She’s got a hold on appointed time (see the podcast on that, which features another face of Lilith) and she has some very clever ways for ensuring we never reach that special and designated moment when we are meant to pass over into our calling.

The first tactic is simply to fix us to a spot so we can’t move. You might think we’d notice that problem fairly quickly but, actually, we don’t. We’re speared or staked, nailed down or stabbed through—pinned to a moment in time through trauma. And we’re being drained continually of life by Lilith through the open wound. She’s empowering herself at our expense. We can’t get free of the trauma. Nothing, it seems, works more than temporarily. We do all the usual things—confess, forgive, repent, declare—but we’re still stuck.

The issue is that it’s not enough to remove the spiritual legal rights of this spirit through forgiveness and repentance, we also need the spear that transfixed us in the first place removed. We need to get it pulled out of our spirit.

This isn’t hard. But it’s wise not to try it ourselves. There are dangers because we can retraumatise ourselves, rather than remove trauma. It’s better to ask someone we trust to request Jesus lay His hand on the spear (or spears: there may be many), to break off and dissolve any barbs so it can come out smoothly and to remove it at the same time as the Holy Spirit pours in healing balm to seal the wound instantly and permanently.

Then, when this is complete, check with Jesus to see if there’s any need for further forgiveness or repentance, or whether it’s all done. Simply do whatever He says. That’s the key to coming unstuck.

This is Grace Drops and I’m Anne Hamilton. May you always know and do whatever Jesus says.

Thank you to Lorna Skinner of for the background music.

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